As I am closing in on 40 here shortly, I’ve been thinking a lot about what I want to do when I grow up (ha) and what I want my next 40 years to look like.
It is easy to say what I don’t want to fill my time with.
I am finding I have zero time or patience or the mental capacity for fake or surface level connections with people. I could care less about FOMO or trying to keep up with the Joneses (although the Joneses I know are pretty cool people!) I’m done comparing myself, my life, my home, or my children to other peoples. My journey and my life is mine and it is one of a kind. I don’t need or want to do something just because someone else is. I don’t need to keep up with anyone or be better than anyone but myself and how I was yesterday.
One thing I know I need to learn to do more of is prioritize myself a bit more and what brings me joy.
That looks like a lot of different things– making a conscious effort to be more present with my children and husband, being a better listener, worrying less about things I cannot control, fostering relationships better and focusing on the people who truly want to be a part of my life, saying no more, not letting myself bear the weight of other peoples’ judgements of or disappointments in me, and knowing when to walk away from things that no longer serve me.
That said, as some of you know from knowing me personally or just following along here, I am a contributing writer for several other blogs/websites aside from mine.
One such was Toledo Moms.
Toledo Moms was a resource for mothers in the area I live in and I was a contributing writer with them for almost two years before the site retired in December 2021. It has since relaunched as Northwest Ohio Moms and I have since made the decision to end my affiliation with them.
I love to write and I love to connect with others through my writing. Toledo Moms provided a platform for that to some extent and I am grateful for that and appreciative of my chapter with them. However, at this juncture I do not feel it is the best use of my time or writing. What I feel called to write doesn’t feel to me like the best fit for that platform and that is okay. I wish the team who is part of NW Ohio Moms the best, but part of what I’m learning in my elder millennial age is when it is time to walk away and for me, that’s now.
Thanks to all of you for sticking around and following me here on How Many Monkeys Are Jumping On the Bed? and supporting my writing on other platforms I am part of.
Stay tuned. The best is yet to come.